Hey there, long time no talk. Thanks for being here— I appreciate your time.
Life looks a lot different for me than it did two years ago. However, the same ideas flow through my cluster filled brain and I thought I would share. I’d like to call this post— the beauty in the discomfort.
As most of you know, I moved across the country. I picked up my former life that included a safe haven and moved to a new chapter. I really truly thank myself for that move every single day.
Anyways, the discomfort. In all honesty, I was completely unsure if I should leave. I had everything at the tip of my fingertips and lived a great life in this little town full of opportunities. However, I decided to step out of my zone. I made the decision to leave even when I wasn’t sure if I wanted to leave. I did this because when you sit and dwell on the things you have, the ability to want to change diminish. I knew that if I spent a single more second thinking about all the changes I would endure, I would never actually do it. So, by the time I was moving in— I still had no clue if I was even ready.
You may be one to follow the belief that decision making should come from your most stable state of mind. But, if you can’t tell, I think that the best decisions come from those who push themselves into the unknown.
Every single one of us has a dream. You have an ideal future that you want to live. The only way to get there is by taking the action to. You will be stuck in a constant cycle of wishing for things that never come your way without taking the steps to make those changes. The change is in the discomfort, allow yourself to be lost in a world that has an end. Most of the times, you will be so damn happy you allowed yourself to blossom.
Some tips that I learned while being unsure of what I wanted were:
1) remembering that you’re the only person who will be by your side till the end. If you can’t make yourself sufficient with the life you live, nobody can.
2) life is so much more simple than this bustling society makes it seem. Take care of yourself and those around you and everything else will fall into place. Good people live good futures.
3) nobody else will be able to experience change like you. You’re the only person who makes the metric of what your book fills. You’re the writer of your story that nobody else can take away.
Life is so much more than settling for subpar ideas. Everything you want you can have with enough work, determination, and strength. Push yourself to be the person you want. One concept that has pushed me to be more of a fearless soul was the idea that if convince yourself enough of something, it will subconsciously follow. This may seem like the idea of ‘gaslighting’ but when it comes in your favor, it truly isn’t. For example, If I envision becoming a nicer person as much as possible— I will subconsciously pick up behaviors that push me to the vision I wanted for myself. And hey, life is about growth. This tactic has helped me on so many occasions because in order to live, you transform, you change, and you grow. In order to do all those, you have to evolve a little bit every single day. When you imagine the person you want to be, the evolving will be a lot more pretty and less self doubt will stem.
I think that we as humans have the tendency to doubt our future and make only the realistic aspects true. Like I stated previously, you are the writer of your own book. Nobody wants a book to end with a mediocre story. Fulfill yourself in order for the readers to root for you.
Anyways, thanks for being here and reading. I hope you are taking care of yourself and living freely.
I’ll see you when I see you.
Best,
Chronicles of Life from an Outstander.
The Chronicles of Life from an Outstander 